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The way of the superior man summary: 12 big ideas

The way of the superior man summary will teach you how to become a superior man. I am sure you want to be a superior man. Not every man is superior. Here are the 12 big ideas from the book which will make you a man of superior status.

How to be a man?

Every boy wants to be a man and every man wants to be a superior man. A superior man is a man everyone respects and listens to. He has power and higher status than anyone around him. Want to be a superior man? Read this article.

The way of the superior man summary

This article is inspired by the book The way of the superior man by David Deida. Various lessons from this book are shared in the article. Not every chapter of the book is included here, only the once related to purpose and work are included. Hopefully it will teach you the art of manliness.

The way of the superior man key points

The way of the superior man summary

The way of the superior man Summary

Stop hoping for completion of tasks

Have you ever stuck in the trap of one day I will start doing the things that I really want to do? We all have experienced this many times. We keep waiting for the good stuff to happen and we keep waiting for the perfect opportunity.

That’s why we are never able to do these things. Waiting is equal to wasting time. If you are not taking the first step today, you will never do it.

By thinking so our brain shows us that how limited time we have and still waste it on things and jobs that we don’t want to do or the jobs that don’t make us who we are.

The way of the superior man - Stop hoping for completion of tasks

Do the thing, for one hour daily, that you really want to do. After doing so one you will realize are you good at it or it was just your fantasy.

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Make your own decisions

Be responsible for your life and make your own decisions. Don’t let anybody tell you what is good for you. Yes, listen to them and respect their opinion but take your own decision. The author says that you should act as if your father were dead.

See how your life changes when you don’t try to please your father. Don’t try to prove your father your worth, do what’s good for you.  You will suddenly feel relieved from the burden of his critical eyes.

Start by doing one or two tasks daily (related to your real purpose) that you earlier avoid doing because of your father.

Know your edge

We all have fears but we try to act like we are not afraid. Your potential is your gift but we tend to compromise it in front of fears. To over the fear we need to accept that we are afraid of doing something.

We need to accept that I can make more money but because I am lazy I try not to work on a side hustle and we need to accept that we don’t get in shape because we are too comfortable not improving.

The way of the superior man- Know your edge

Accept your self-doubt and fear in front of you parents and friends. Kiss your fear and make your fear your friend. Challenge your fear but don’t try to escape it. Make tough choices and honor them.

Hold to you deepest self

Being yourself start with finding who you are and to do that we need to discover our purpose. You purpose should not always be attached to an outcome. If you write poem but no one reads it, it should not hurt you as you are not someone who writes poems, you are a poet this is who you are.

A man focuses more on his “why” and his mission or purpose of life. Your purpose is the source of who you are as a man. Let this source drive your life. Discover this source before doing a task. Do a work not to fulfill yourself but because this is who you are.

Purpose before relationship

Taking about your mission, it should always come before your women, make your purpose your priority. When you spend time with you women make that time all for her giving her all your attention after that return to your mission.

Purpose before relationship - Man working

The time you spend with her should be the time when want to be with her more than anything. She will respect you for this and by chance if she doesn’t respect you for this she is not the one.

Don’t do something just please your women

Your women will try to make you please her; don’t ever change your mind to just please her. If you do so it will break her trust in you and why should anyone trust in you when you can’t trust yourself. Listen to her suggestion but act with your core.

Trust your decisions, if sometimes it goes wrong find a better solution or learn from this bad experience after all it was an experience.

Do it for love

A man never does a task just for his personal gain; he does it because he has a gift that he wants to share with the world. It could be in a relationship or at work. He does it for love. Do it for the love of giving and not holding back.

Do it for love

Remember the example of poet, you write poems because this is who you are and sharing this poem is nothing but an opportunity to give your gift to others.

Enjoy criticism

Have friends that criticize you, no not in an insulting way but in a constructive way. They should challenge your mediocrity and help you improve. If they don’t criticize you for your mediocrity then you are wasting your time with them.

They should be as honest to your face about your weakness as they are about your strengths. They should tell about your life as they see it. If criticism worries you, learn how to stop worrying and start living.

Discover your purpose

If you are not aware of your purpose, discover it. A man is weak without his purpose. Your purpose is your truth and you are fulfilled when you have a purpose. A man’s work and intimacy is just an opportunity to give his gifts.

Discover your purpose

Lean just beyond your edge

Imagine there is a circle with a number of layers and these layers are your purpose and desires. At the center of the circle lies your deepest purpose.

So when you start to live life at the edge and start challenging you fears these layers or purpose start to become empty and boring then they should be discarded. Like this you will one day discover your deepest purpose.

Be open to change

Things in your life will change, be willing to move with the change.

Expect change and be alert of your surroundings. Keep a record of changes that are occurring, by seeing the positive side of the change set goals and have a plan, visualize how this change will improve your life. Stop resisting change learn to move with it.

Learn more about how to deal and accept big changes in life.

A superior man works towards purpose not on task that doesn’t matter

We often do task that don’t really matter to us, yes every task that we do is important but we need to do more tasks that add up to our purpose and minimize tasks that don’t add up.

On the last day of our life we want to feel I lived my purpose and not that I was a good boy and washed my own clothes. With your purpose you live with who you really are.

What it takes to be a superior man?

How to be a man?Description
Stop hoping for completion of tasks.If you are not taking the first step today, you will never do it.  
Make your own decisionsBe responsible for your life and make your own decisions. Don’t let anybody tell you what is good for you.
Know your edgeWe should know we are fears and be honest about it.
Hold to you deepest selfBeing yourself start with finding who you are and to do that we need to discover our purpose.
Purpose before relationshipIt should always come before your women, make your purpose your priority.
Don’t do something just please your womenIf you do so it will break her trust in you and why should anyone trust in you when you can’t trust yourself.
Do it for loveA man never does a task just for his personal gain; he does it because he has a gift that he wants to share with the world.
Enjoy criticismHave friends that criticise you, no not in an insulting way but in a constructive way. They should challenge your mediocrity and help you improve.
Discover your purposeIf you are not aware of your purpose, discover it. A man is weak without his purpose.
Lean just beyond your edgeChallenge you fears and find your deepest purpose.
Be open to changeThings in your life will change, be willing to move with the change. Expect change and be alert of your surroundings
Work towards purpose not on task that doesn’t matterWe need to do more tasks that add up to our purpose and minimize tasks that don’t add up
The way of the superior man summary in a tabular form

Conclusion

Everyone who wants to be a real man should know his purpose, should not wait for the perfect opportunity, should prioritize his purpose, should be willing to change, know his fears and challenge his fears. That’s what being a man is.

I hope you have learned the basics of being a man by reading the way of the superior man summary. This is one of the best David Deida books.

The book includes parts where the author talks about dealing with your women but in this article we have not included that. Feel free to comment below to give your suggestions, recommendations and feedback.

FAQs

1. What is the way of the superior man about?

This book explains what it takes to be a higher status man, finding your true purpose in life and gives precious advice on maintaining a healthy relationship with your women.

2. Who is the author of The Way Of the Superior Man?

David Deida. He is an American author who has written 10 books on sexual and spiritual growth of man and women.

3. How to be a superior man?

Stop hoping for completion of tasks.
Make your own decisions
Know your edge
Hold to you deepest self
Purpose before relationship
Don’t do something just please your women
Do it for love
Enjoy criticism
Discover your purpose
Lean just beyond your edge
Be open to change
Work towards purpose not on task that doesn’t matter

I am currently pursuing MBA in Marketing and Sales specialization (2018-2020) from Amity Business School, Noida.

Reshabh Deep Singh
I am currently pursuing MBA in Marketing and Sales specialization (2018-2020) from Amity Business School, Noida.
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